I’ve come to realise that to answer this question we need to look beyond the usual things that happen in a relationship; like going on dates or everyday married life things. Instead, we should look beyond what we can see and focus on the actual dynamic of the relationship.
Relationships are about finding the balance between two people; and, in the end, also the balance inside each of us. That’s why we’re meeting opposite poles of ourselves, and discovering new aspects of our own characters. Because that’s the learning required to walk the path to greater harmony.
A common combination is a very quiet person and an easily explosive partner. Why? Because they are the teachers of each other. The quiet, more passive person shows the receptive and feminine quality to the partner. And visa versa. It’s probable that the bigger the distance between two people’s differences the more difficult it is to maintain harmony and peace in that relationship. But for many people they’re naturally tempted into this kind of relationship.
This is just an example, but every relationship scenario is always a learning experience and may also cause beautiful healing, too. I believe that we can become enlightened through conscious relationships.
As a person slowly balances himself, he will naturally meet more balanced people. Then he will probably look back at crazy arguments of the past and shake his head in disbelief.
But, of course, we have to fall off the bike many times before we become a good rider. And we’ll never regret those falls because now we can enjoy the pleasure of riding fast when we want, or simply slowing down if we feel like it.
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