If a movie has a perfect beginning and excellent ending, the middle part can be average and you’ll still feel like you enjoyed it. But if the beginning is bad and the end is crap, it doesn’t matter if the middle section is good – you’re not likely to recommend it to your friends. And like it is with movies, so it is for everything, including lovemaking.
I guess you know where I’m coming from. I don’t want to give you a recipe on how to make love. I just want to remind you that “afterplay” is as important as foreplay. Did you know that? It just means that a smooth landing is as important as a gentle and sensitive beginning. How crazy you get in between is really up to you! But remember that the moment of contenting and the moment of separating are incredibly delicate moments.
Much has been written about foreplay. But what is “afterplay”? Well, for more sensitive people, a quick separation after climax can be like dropping cold water on them. For many people a smooth landing is important for feeling safe and comfortable. Why not give a few more minutes to your lover after you both went wild and crazy (and hopefully had a few orgasms)?
After climax you want to ground yourself again. It’s a beautiful time when, together, you can consciously come to the end of this intimate meeting. Maybe it’s as simple as keeping eye contact while silently lying next to each other. You have shared wildness and passion, so why not the silence too? It’s like the biggest appreciation for your partner.
So please don’t leave your lover right after, maybe there are more gifts that you can receive from each other. And I wish you exciting and deep moments while exploring new possibilities.