If you open the book Kama Sutra (which contains ancient teachings of making love and honoring your lover in a very special way) you’ll notice that the chapter on preparing yourself before you come together is not tiny.
I was teenager when I found this book in my mother’s cabinet in between clothes. And I never forget how they mentioned that before mouthwash and chewing gum existed people used fresh mint leaves to freshen the mouth.
And that’s what I want to closer examine: our hygiene ritual for the preparation our body! I believe this ritual deserves more attention than five minutes in the bathroom. Because how prepared we are when meet our lover shows how much we care about the quality of that meeting.
I don’t want to sound like your mother, reminding you to wash behind your ears. But I have my own experience with lovers, some of which had better awareness of hygiene than others! In fact, some had no idea.
So I want to bring some light to this topic. And this is a message for both genders: HYGIENE REALLY MATTERS!
Here are a few routines that are good to include before potential sexual play:
Mouths and breath – Because fluent breathing is important, as you know already, you want to be able to relax the mouth and jaw and open them whenever you feel you need to. Relaxed mouths = relaxed pelvis. And of course, there is kissing. It’s very nice when you can breathe to each other’s faces and feel fresh and comfortable with that. Use everything that is necessary for you to get to this point of fresh and juicy breath that calls to your lover, ‘kiss me!’
Shaving intimate parts – Personally, I think these days we put to much attention on shaving and following fashion to be perfect and stylish.
I think in the first place it should be how we feel, not how the partner likes it; in the end it’s your body and your hair. Imagine two people shaved two days ago playing and making love, it’s like Velcro. The skin is over sensitive and soft friction is impossible.
Perfume and deodorant or having a refreshing shower – Some people prefer fragrance or perfume rather than smelling the person who is underneath. I find this is a shame because a natural smell can stimulate us much stronger than any perfume. I prefer to be able smell the real fragrance of the man I’m sharing those moments with (of course, after he and I took a shower), because body odor can make us very excited or very frustrated. It depends on the type of odor. It’s like a moment of truth!
If you’re going to experiment with focusing on scent I promise it’s going to give you a new dimension. And I would say it’s one of the indicators that show how compatible we are on a sexual level.
Cleansing of intimate parts – You may feel like that’s clear, I just want to add a little detail. The vagina has an acid pH level, which is why women usually use special intimate gel, as using normal soap can be a real disaster for her the next day. The same is valid for men; normal soap can dry up the sensitive skin or cause irritation. And if you have unprotected intercourse it has the same effect for her as if she used the soap directly. Not all women are aware of this or are not brave enough to explain to their partner. Doctors also recommend cleansing only with warm water.
You may also perform your cleansing ritual together and talk about what like on each other. What I mean is you may help clean or shave each other, whatever you both like. Just ask for it in a nice way and play and serve each other for a little while. I really recommend this it’s good fun.
I found these topics very interesting. Think of it like a little inspiration because it’s very personal and each one of us has to find our own way that fits perfectly.
And if you feel any kind of emotion while reading I’m very happy. Wishing you adventures on your journey!