What happens when the muscles are regularly stimulated? The body burns fat so easily; you don’t have to be overly careful about the food you eat. And when some of the muscle groups start to become active, your posture also starts to change. The body posture you have during the day also mirrors the same posture, or approach, that you have to life. That means with more physical movement and the resulting improved posture, you show a different attitude in life to the people you meet. We can very quickly sense by their bodies whether a person is sick or feels fit and strong.

The vibe you send out is like a magnet for the people with that same vibe. So choose carefully what kind of energy you project to the world. What kind of people do you want attract?

After some time practicing acro yoga I noticed muscles I didn’t even know I had. And I’m more and more curious about what my body will allow me to do. Stretching is also important. In Chinese tradition it’s believed that equal time should be dedicated to strengthening and stretching.

For me there are a few ways how to find the balance between stretching and strengthening. When I do yoga I don’t have to think about stretching because yoga builds strength and stretches the body at the same time. If I do another kind of sport I always find around 20 minutes at the end for a good stretch and five minutes for the final relaxation. Why is it important? Simply try it! It is like the dessert after the main course. And the second benefit is the next day you don’t feel muscle pain.

I love to look at body builders (I mean the normal sized ones…), but that’s all that this sport offers you. Unfortunately this sport is just for effect, it is missing the strength and flexibility. I believe that real strength comes from the balance of flexibility, strength and mental health.

Lifting heavy dumbbells may inflate the muscles but it does not build strength and flexibility. I know many men long for big muscles and a six-pack, but as I talk to women it’s honestly not the priority for most of us.

When it comes to exercise, some love to go on a long walk, some like to run and work out, others prefer to skate, or play team sports or practice yoga. I like a bit of everything.

What is the active part of your day? Maybe you need a sport buddy to support you with your discipline; I found that’s very helpful.

If you already have your routine, keep going. And remember that regular practice builds inner strength at first and supports us to feel good in our “temple”.

The physical effect will be obvious later but your improved feeling happens immediately. It’s such a pleasant moment when people start to notice this improved mood and ask you what is different with you.

I hope something you read here will be useful and inspiring for you. If you feel like sharing what’s in your routine, please leave your message below.

Introducing the Two Goddess Massage. Experience how we take care of more parts of your body at the same time. And as two women, we have two very different energies. Inside of each of us is a specific dominating quality that creates the flavour of our energy. You can sense this difference when you focus on each masseuse separately. And then enjoy the gift of diversity.

During your session you may become aware of the contrasting passions and skills between the two goddesses. You can choose any type of Tantra massage; just this time you’ll have the attention of both Bara and Barbara. Lucky you!

So if you’ve ever dreamed of sharing an intimate moment with more than one woman, then this is your opportunity to do it in a pure and open way.

Once you taste how beautiful it is to share intimacy with more than one person at the same time, you may want to bring this new experience into your own life.

We will initiate you to this ritual and gently take care of you. If there is something that your soul longs for, please let us know at the beginning. And if it corresponds to real tantric ideas, we will be happy to make that wish come true.

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Usually, the woman is the one who shows restraint, right? She doesn’t want to jump into bed immediately at the beginning of a relationship. She knows what’s important and waits for the right moment, when she knows a deeper connection is possible. She unconsciously knows that sexual intercourse will influence her for a long time. And the quality of this experience depends on many things. Sex is like a roof that graces the rest of the house. But it’s obvious that the roof without the basement has lost any meaning.

So what does this house actually look like? It’s only up to you what kind of materials you use. Your house is your choice. For me the most important qualities are very simple things. But often people forget about them very quickly. For example, clear communication is important to me. I’m very clear about my needs and wishes, preferring to be completely open about what I like and don’t like. So, no, I don’t go a hundred times around a subject that needs to be discussed. Wouldn’t life be easier if we all simply said what’s on our mind?

The next important quality is empathy and listening to your partner. We have mastered the art of being honest and clear. And now we need to be sure that our partner will accept this truth. In the beginning of this approach, it is enough to simply listen to each other, to let your partner express what he/she needs to express. And take a breath before you start to oppose them. Maybe there is more than one way to look at things. This is what empathy is all about. And sometimes there is no answer or solution needed, just a hug and gentle caress as a nonverbal expression of your compassion for your partner.

So that’s only two things: expressing and listening, right? But in actual fact this is significant learning. And it takes some time to find the best way of communicating with a new (or old) partner.

But before we start to communicate on nonverbal levels by body movement and connecting our sexual centre physically, it’s good to be sure we managed the verbal communication. Of course we may feel the need to say something while we make love, but it’s not about chatting.

So yes, talk, talk and talk about your experiences, about your boundaries, about your favourite things and about your dreams that you want to explore with your partner. We can feel comfortable if we know what our partner likes and dislike. A person naturally acquires this skill when there is enough time before getting sexually intimate. I guess universal timing doesn’t exist. We’re all different. And the reason why I talk about it is because women often feel obliged to have sex when they see a hard on.

I understand it’s not easy to resist rushing to have sex, when your mind has very strong erotic ideas in it. But if you want to have a goddess in your bed, instead of a servant, you need to be patient, especially before having sex for the first time.

I really want to challenge you, that as the man you can be the one who shows restraint with first time intercourse. There is a never-ending land of other mutual enjoyment. Be playful and curious. Firstly, she will most probably be very surprised. And please don’t think of this as a game or strategy. It will only work when your intentions are for a deeper, more loving connection.

After your goddess understands that you give time for both of you she will be very grateful. She will transform your gift into a very feminine expression of love. She will honour your penis for the respect that you have shown and she will take care of him like he is the most special one in the world.

And remember that we have unlimited number of tries to get this right. And also remember that the goddess is there but sometimes she’s hiding and with time your eyesight will get sharper.

If there is anything you’re curious about, you can share it below in the comments. If you feel you want to try to reconnect with your partner and learn more, please visit our couples section: www.hegre.com/tantra/couples and book your preferred session.